The perfect afternoon

On every Friday night, or the night before I am going to have a holiday. I will spare sometime, sit down and thing how could I make the most uses of the coming holiday. I don't mean I want to visit as many places as possible but to make myself as enjoyable as possible. To make things simplier, I would try to make the holiday as "a perfect afternoon".

Coincidentally, I just read an article (indeed, it is the title of the book as well), bearing the same title -- "The perfect afternoon" and I think this is somehow explaining what I might be seeking for.

First of all, the afternoon should be happened in within the city, not in any vacational spot, countryside or alike. This is the basic criteria, we need the pulse of the city, the movement of people but also the peacefulness that exist somewhere around the corner.

What come next is, forget your plan, you simply don't need one. In a perfect afternoon, you will just go out and guide yourself along your senses. During so, take a closer look around the places. You might be very familiar with it, yet, you will see something that will happen only on the day at that time.

Sounds easy?

No.

For too many times, I was taken away by the thought of "not wasting a single second" and ended up spoilt the "perfect afternoon". And the harder I am trying to make myself feel good, the more upset I become and it turns out to be "The Stressful Afternoon".

Marriage

This might not be the appropriate "title" since what I wanna talk about is indeed the steps involved for the process of "getting married". Also, the meaning of "getting married" is already beyond the question of necessity.

Since I am the believer of "A must to get married".

I don't want to spend too much time in explaining why but what marriage meant to me is a respect to the one you love. The truly believe in telling yourself you have found your beloved one. And in a "realistic" manner so to speak, getting marry -- to sign the certificate of marriage, with all the "official" steps taken care, is also paying another way of respect to your beloved one, since this will protect your another half by the law enforcement.

OK, let's head back to what I originally want to talk about.

At the time U agree to get marry with someone, U are not only engaging with this piece of "agreement" but also the bunch of "services" you have to fulfill, in short, to satisfy people around you.


Before proceeding further, I should state that all I am talking about is really really personal, since for different people, the thought will be different.


Are you ready for more?

What I don't like is, the whole process to me sounds like a torture, I don't feel like fun in getting through it. It won't make me feel anything special for getting marry (unlike the time you are preparing for a trip to overseas, all those moments do make much fun!). And even worst is,no matter how well you are doing, something will still get screwed, no matter how minute it might be, you will be blamed. Also, you are not the only one who has to "suffer" from the process, chances are, you have to ask people around to help you in doing something. Yeah, the kind soul will feel grateful in being able to help a buddy out, but hey, why bother seeking people to do something just for yourself? Shouldn't they spend the time in doing something more meaningful?

It sounds sad but I am sure I won't be able to get away from doing so. Indeed, I do have a couple of plan to make the process more "tolerable".

• Instead of spending $ to buy us stuff, I would suggest my buddy to either donate the $ to Orbis, Oxfam or any other volunteer services provider.


• Instead of "inviting" people that U don't see once in a year to your banquet, I would rather hold a private party somewhere with my families and friends...

What else can you think of? Feel free to post you comment right below..

Happy wedding...